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Tuesday, 30 September 2025

On Deck

Geraldine's story

ON THE DECK

My main, major and dearest hope is that, on Monday, we will be sitting on the
deck !
Just this suspended deck between the house and the landscape at 180 degrees
with it’s green fields scattered with a few bushes and some remarquable trees.
Land of and for horses who spend their days and nights out there grazing the
grass, galloping here and there, trotting towards the humans ready to pat them
on the nose and giving unexpected shows when running together to
unsuspected places : what are their codes ? Playing, showing off, exposing
their non revealed hierarchy ?
No matter ! Just a beautiful place to be sitting in !
And why not with budding writers who gather joyfully every now and again to
submit their delusional ramblings to each other.
And whatmore, make a point of preparing the most interesting, lovely and
tastfull meal to share.
And unforgettable deserts.
And coffee.
And stories revealing each one’s personnality, sensitivity, favourite themes,
concerns and tastes.
But, if it’s too cold, too damp or too unconforable, we surely will be happy to
sit inside, looking through the window on to the deck, at the framed landscape
and appreciating the warm welcome of our hostess, the fabulous food and
wine, our stomachs and feelings taking it all in.

 

Paula's story



Some of you might be familiar with something called vertigo.

Vertigo is different from dizziness. Dizziness is when you feel light-headed, weak, or a little unsteady on your feet. Vertigo is an out-of-control sensation of spinning, of the world around you spinning, of feeling completely off-balance.

I’ve been struggling with these sensations for the past four days. It’s much better now, but in the beginning, it brought with it incredible nausea, headaches, and, quite frankly, fear. It’s a scary thing to feel like you have lost control of the very ground beneath your feet.

The most common type of vertigo, and the kind I believe happened to me, comes from a problem in your inner ear, or the vestibular nerve in your brain: the structures that help you stay balanced. A typical cause of this type of peripheral vertigo is called BPPV, or benign paroxysmal positional vertigo, which is basically an inner ear disorder. It happens when you move your head a certain way, such as tipping it backward.

So, what causes this? An inner ear disorder can happen when tiny calcium particles get dislodged from their normal location and collect in the inner ear. This can occur for no known reason, and has been known to occur more often as we age. And because the inner ear is constantly sending signals to your brain about your head and body movements to help you keep your balance, these dislodged crystals wreak havoc with those signals. And your balance is suddenly shot.

For me, I sat up to get out of bed early Thursday morning, and the whole room around me spun, fast. All I could do was lie back down and wait for it to stop, which it did after a minute or two — the longest minutes of my life. James was at my side in a second, and I moved incredibly slowly, trying to keep my head at the same level, as he walked me to the bathroom. What followed over the next few days was a combination of brief instances of vertigo, yet a constant feeling of being off balance, like being on the deck of a ship in rolling seas, where you are continually grasping at any inanimate object just to stay upright, and to get from one place to the next.

James has suffered from a different, more serious form of vertigo, for years, something called cervical vertigo, which stems from inflammation of the cervical nerves in his neck. Thankfully, it has happened only three times since I have known him, but it’s serious enough to last for hours, and twice, to land him in the emergency room for IV fluids and sedatives. My point is, that he understood instinctively what was going on with me, and he was a huge help in managing the symptoms.

As the days went on, I found I felt best sitting in one position with a book held at a certain angle in front of me, so that I wasn’t moving my head; indeed, I wasn’t moving much at all. I got a lot of reading done! On the second day, I was desperate for a shower, so James stepped into the shower with me, and washed my hair as I sat on the tiled bench he had insisted on making when he renovated the bathroom, adding features like a seat and a safety handle that we thought we’d need only in a far distant future. And he had to dry my body because I couldn’t bend to towel off my legs. (That might have been a high point, actually.) Eventually, I found I could stand up and walk without the room spinning around me, as long as I held my head in the same position. I could watch television, but I couldn’t look down to eat off my plate at the same time. Bending down to pick something off the floor was out of the question. If James wanted to show me something on his phone, he had to hold it in front of me; I couldn’t turn my head to look at the images. Tipping my head back to drink was unthinkable. Getting into bed meant moving like a snail until my head gently reached the pillow, which was one of several piled up behind my shoulders, and then not turning from side to side.

Anyway, I have gradually improved, and I’m beyond grateful. It’s amazing the parts of our everyday life that we take for granted. We, all of us, stand on shaky ground as we age, and although we really don’t need the universe to remind us of that, it seems determined to do so.

Cheers!

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Annemarie's story

On thé Deck

One of my most exciting voyages was on the passenger liner SS Uganda. Usually the family's biennial trip to the uk was by plane, a journey at that time taking three intervening refuelling stops between Kampala and London. This time it was to be by boat, a part of our holiday.

SS Uganda  was built in 1952  as a passenger liner then became a cruise ship. During the Falkland's War she was called up for military duty while on a cruise and her 315 cabin passengers and 940 school children were immediately discharged(dumped!) in Naples, where on docking  the ship full of children could be heard singing "Rule Britannia".

I had just turned six and the children on the voyage had a certain amount of freedom to roam this vast ship, watched over and spoilt by the stewards. My most memorable moment was crossing the equator.

In the 18th century and earlier, the line-crossing ceremony was a brutal event, often involving beating pollywogs (those who have not crossed the equator before), with boards and wet ropes and sometimes throwing the victims over the side of the ship or dragging the pollywog through the surf from the stern as an initiation ceremony for the sailors. On the HMS Endeavour voyage of 1768, captained by James Cook there is a description of how the crew drew up a list of everyone on board, including cats and dogs and interrogated them as to whether they had crossed the equator. If the answer was 'no' they had to choose to give up their wine allowance for four days, or undergo a ceremony in which they were ducked three times into the ocean.

Fortunately for us crossing the equator was an excuse for a party and fancy dress. My baby brother was simply fitted with a pair of wings and went as a naked Eros.  The rest I don't remember so enamoured was I of my own costume representing the ship and lovingly made by mum.

Blue skies, tropical sun, the Indian ocean alive with white horses as we crossed the equator east of Somalia. With great expectations we left our cabin, my black and white crepe dress rustling and rasping, my hat, a funnel of two black rings encircling a white ring, tethered to my hair with countless Kirby grips. Both hands gripping my tottering hat we arrived on the deck. In place of colourful deckchairs were  crowds of  countless one-eyed, bare-chested pirates with cardboard cutlasses (my father one of them), Neptunes bearing wonky tridents and a number of biped mermaids in shimmering shells...but...only one SS Uganda!

Anticipation and apprehension filled my 6year old self until I heard ..."and first prize goes to the little girl dressed as our ship..." I ran to collect my prize - 10 African shillings - and without waiting to hear 2nd and 3rd prize announced I tore through pirates, mermaids and Neptunes to the onboard shop. Since the beginning of the voyage  I'd ogled a camouflaged army tank with a rotating gun turret. I had no idea what the vehicle was but the rotating turret had me mesmerised...and it was exactly 10 African shillings - the value of my prize. Of course the shop was closed, everyone else participating in the equator crossing ceremony. I had to wait an agonising 20 hours for my heart's desire. I loved that toy for a whole month only to have it crushed under the wheels of a car when we reached England. And I loved my funnel hat.

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Jackie's story

ON the 29Th of December 1959 a family left their home in Ferndown England climbed into the waiting taxi with all their worldly possessions and set off for Southampton.    The taxi was stuffed to the gills with suitcases,  three passengers and the driver and as it was very low on the ground,  got stuck on some railway tracks.    Several men rushed over to heave the taxi back on the road and tension mounted as the funnel of the boat started spewing white smoke and the horn bellowed announcing its departure.

Clutching their passenger ticket bought through Cook and Son Ltd. For 163.15 pounds sterling they boarded The Statendam cruise ship that went regularly from Southampton to New York

The family were directed to their 3 berth cabin n° 452  in tourist class and set off.  

Crossing the Atlantic at the end of December in a smallish ocean liner was no joke.    After the first few hours of calm weather in port and a good lunch the change was subtle, the air turned damp and heavy, the wind sharpened and the horizon darkened to a bruised slate gray.    The calm sea transformed itself heaving and churning, rolling in slow, muscular swells and rain started to lash the deck in horizontal sheets.

The cabin was small and for three people they just had enough room to move around.   As the parents were nailed to their sick beds the ten year old daughter  managed to climb up stairs onto the deck and find a place on a window seat of a shop where she managed to curl up and wait it out.  

She watched as the wind started to howl and send fine sprays of seawater high into the air. Waves towered over the railings, great walls of green seawater capped with foaming white, broke against the bow with explosions of spray. The horizon disappeared behind curtains of rain and sea mist.

The small girl clung to the window seat on deck calmly admiring the spectacle of the sea.    The seasickness abated as she was outside but the announcement that stabilizers were being lowered to try to steady the boat made her and the passengers worried.         Crew members tried to reassure the little girl and passed by her window seat regularly – “are you alright love, not too cold up here”?   She clutched her coat put her arm through a bar in the window to stabilize and decided to stay put.   The crew moved quickly and efficiently, their practiced calm offering reassurance to passengers, but even they paused to glance at the towering seas.

The boat pitched and rolled underfoot, sometimes with a lazy sway, sometimes with a sudden, stomach-dropping lurch. Plates rattled in the dining rooms. Doors slammed unexpectedly.   The low groan of stressed metal echoed through the corridors, and every so often, a deep shudder ran through the hull as a wave collided with it head-on.

Then a out of the mist with horn blowing and shouts of laughter and joy the Statue of Liberty emerged.     New York finally after  7 days that had seemed interminable.    The little family went through customs and taxied to the next part of the journey as they made their way to Chicago then onto the Pacific railroad Golden State train to San Diego California where a new life began.

The young girl avoided any cruises, ocean crossings, ferries and anything moving on water until this day.

 

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Sarah's story

On the Deck 5 no falling
(18.09.2025)
As she lay back on the deck in her two piece bathing suit (topless was a little too risky), admiring the view of the beaches and
palm trees flying past her, occasionally glancing down at her trim figure (no bulges, like some), she felt more than satisfied.
She had never been clever, but she had beauty, or so she always consoled herself. She was still young (she paid no attention to
the years that were attributed to her, in fact, she no longer counted them), she would always be young. Not like some.
But when she stepped off onto the unfamiliar wharf (they always holidayed in new and different places now that they had the
money for it), she tripped , and fell flat on her face. The wharf attendants rushed up and excused themselves and the marina for
the unfortunate accident. But as it turned out, she was all right and thanked them stiffly. She hadn't liked their helping her up,
as if she were an older person.
As she stood in front of her mirror that evening, making up her face for dinner, she smiled complacently. No wrinkles on her
face! Not like some. She smoothed the cream over, and patted her cheeks. But as she left the bathroom, she felt a bit dizzy.
And she fell. She managed to scramble up before her husband could come in and see her ignominiously crumpled on the floor.
But he caught her as she was just straightening up.
“What's the matter? Did you fall?”
“Certainly not! Nothing's the matter. I was just readjusting my dress.”
He looked somewhat dubious, but took her arm as the went down to the hotel dining room.
Once seated at their table she glanced at the menu and then looked round at the other guests, who were already being served.
The menu had two propositions for the evening: salade au saumon fumée or biftek frites. Bob of course would take the steak
and fries. At the other tables she noticed that most of the younger, svelter diners were having the salmon.
“I'll have the salad,” she announced.
Bob looked surprised. “But you've never eaten that before! You hate raw fish!”
Actually, she couldn't say she hated raw fish because she had always refused to touch it. But there was always a first time.
She didn't really appreciate the soft, slimy stuff, but she got it down. Or at least most of it. And exchanged a glance of triumph
with the young woman at the next table, who seemed in reaction to be somewhat nonplussed.
The next day she went to have her hair done. The hairdresser washed it, trimmed it and then asked her gently, “Couleur,
Madame?”
“What?” she said, and he showed her a colour chart. Shocked, she replied vehemently, “No! I am naturally blond and I don't
dye my hair!” (Not like some.) For years she had had hair so blond it was almost white, which she attributed to her
Scandinavian forbears (she had a Swedish great-grandmother in her lineage). The hairdresser looked somewhat dubious, but he
let it go.
Out in the street she tripped over an irregular paving stone she hadn't seen and fell flat on her face. People rushed up. One
took out his phone to call an ambulance. Before she knew it she was on her way to the hospital. They kept her all evening and
said she would be staying through the night. She was furious, because they had planned to go to a cabaret and she was now
locked up like a prisoner.
“At your age, Madame ...” the doctor began in his careful English.
“At my age, ridiculous! I am perfectly all right, and you must let me out!”
“I am sorry, Madame, but we cannot let you out until we have the results of the tests.”
As it turned out, the tests revealed nothing seriously out of order, but the doctor warned her to be more careful. “It's probably
just age, but ...” She didn't even give him time to finish.
He did, however, give her a prescription, which she went to the pharmacy to have filled. As she stood in the queue waiting her
turn, her eyes took in the rows of products on the shelves beside her. “Anti-chute” said one lot, “fortifiant”. She knew enough
French to recognize that “fortifiant” meant fortifying, and racking her brains she finally dragged up a memory. “Chute”
meaning falling or something like that.
“I'll have one of those,” she said when her turn came.
“La lotion?”
“Oh. And something to, er, eat?” She made the motions of swallowing something.
“Les comprimés. Bien sûr. C'est pour votre mari?”
“Mari” meant husband. “No,” she said, before she could think, “it's for me.” And then of course she regretted it. Why admit
to weaknesses? It was bad enough to have bought the stuff.

The woman looked at her dubiously, and then made the motions of rubbing her hair. “Frottez bien,” she said. Whatever did
she say that for?
Their week in France was now up and they boarded the next boat, which would take them to Greece and Turkey and
thereabouts, and ten days later, home. Her sister and her sister's husband were joining them in Rhodes. (They couldn't afford
so long a cruise as herself, she thought with satisfaction; as a child she had always been jealous of her younger sister, but things
had changed.)
As they lay on the deck, she noticed how gray her sister's hair now was, how pudgy she had become, and there was no doubt
about the wrinkles around her eyes and mouth. She had never been clever like her sister, who had the brains of the family. But
she, she had the looks. She smiled internally and said nothing. But then her sister did.
“Your arms and legs have become very hairy,” she said. How typical of her sister to say whatever came into her head!
Annoyed, she looked at her arms, which she had been rubbing daily (along with the rest of her body) with the new lotion.
Indeed the hairs were longer, stronger and darker than before. She looked at her legs, which she had shaved only two days
earlier, and the hairs were already out again, sturdy and dark. “But your hair looks nice.”
Well, that was something. She had been doubtful about that part, but the package said something about “cheveux” so she had
thought she had better rub the lotion in there too. She was glad that some good had come of the product, because despite her
daily applications, she had fallen twice since she had begun the treatment.
“Let's go in to lunch,” said her sister then.
They stood up and, following her sister as the latter skipped nimbly along the deck, she tripped over a towel someone had
dropped, and fell once again flat on her face.
After the ship's doctor examined her and took her pulse, and after Bob had so inconsiderately told the man that she had fallen
several times lately, he prescribed rest. “At your age,” he began, until the gleam in her eye stopped him. “Anyway,” he
continued, “the captain has ordered that you not walk around where you might fall again. You can stay in your cabin or in this
deck chair, as you please.”
As she sat on the deck, fuming internally, she waited still for the medicine to take effect. She swallowed double doses, and in
her cabin rubbed the product furiously onto her skin. By the time they reached their home port, she was as hairy as a baboon,
but that didn't stop her falling as she stepped off the gangplank.
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Tuesday, 2 September 2025

My favorite memory

 

Geraldine's story

I was going to be nine : two years older than the « reason age » when you are supposed to understand what it’s all about !

I felt I was a big girl now and sometimes thought my parents were somewhat over protective.  Oh ! yes, I could go and play outside in the street and the close park,  I could meet up with my friends to walk to school together, I could go to the library all by myself and I could go to the cinema with my big sister, just the two of us.

But I wanted more. At Christmas, I had written this nice letter to Santa Claus explaining how the only gift I really wanted were roller skaters, even if my parents thought I was too young….

Christmas day had come, and I creeped out of bed to see which parcel had my name on it, and saw 3 little presents, too small to be roller skatters and went back to bed weeping and just looking through my stocking where I found a yoyo I started playing with , tears streaming down my cheecks, but no one noticing my despair.

When breakfast was over , the six of us gathered around the tree and Jackie, my eldest sister started the distribution.  By this time I had been able to put on a happy face again and was thankfull for the books and little bag which were to be discovered while tearing the wrapping paper !

Winter sat in with snow, cold and these periods I loved when we would fall ill and spend days in bed with fever,  our Mum bringing special food to us, smothering our chests with Vicks and other miracle creams and lotions, reading books, making puzzles and wobelling to the bathroom 3 or 4 times a day.

No school ! What bliss ! How I hated school !  Although I knew I was learning things that might be useful in a future life, it felt such a waste of time.  I remember when we all caught hooping cough, I was lucky to have a mild  version of it  and after a few days could go out playing and running around for another 5 weeks, for we were not allowed back to school because of contagion. 

My birthday was now close : a few snowdrops had poked their nose out in the park, some of the early dafodills scattered yellow stars in the garden, the days were longer and the sun was heating the last spells of frost : we could forget our gloves or caps without to much damage.

I went to bed on February 28th 1954, very excited : my birthday was on a week-end day so  there would be plenty of time to look at the present and play with it.  I really had no idea wrhat I was going to get, as I must admit, without being a spoiled child, I did have plenty of games, books, puzzles which I still love to-day, and didn’t really need more clothes.

I wake up on March 1st 1954 : I’m nine to-day ! Only one more year before 10 which still seems  like another  century !  Everything is calm in the house.  I lie calmly in bed before I hear my parents getting up, then dash to kiss them : I love that very special cuddle you get on your Birthday.

Breakfast for all.  My father always makes it long when there’s something special.  I think he likes watching us getting excited.  After ou compulsory porridge which I really don’t like, I enjoy the toast and home-made marmelade and wait for the others to finish.
At last, my Mum goes to fetch something behind the curtain : a large paquet sealed by a big red ribbon.  Happy Birthday !

The parcel is heavy.  I try to guess what could be in there : a big book – oh ! no it can’t be that heavy, a puzzle ? A doll ! but my paretns know I don’t really like dolls….

Finally I strip the paper and open a big box containing …. Roller skatters !  Beautiful ones with  shiny metal wheels fixed on a metallic base and long strong leather straps to fit them over the shoes.

My heart started beating very quickly and tears of joy came up to my eyes !  At last !  I was big enough now !  And did I use them, and use, them and use them.  There was a skatting rink in the nearby park and I think as from then, about 80% of my freetime was spent there !  What a day !

And, that’s how I found out,  from that day, I had become a « Big Girl » !


Patrice's story

Patrice Naparstek

18:31 (il y a 18 minutes)



À moi

All of my memories are peppered with salt and sand.  


I have had great swathes of contented time in my life, overwhelming feelings of joy, immeasurable pleasure.   So many of those diamond memories when held still for examination have a shadow tributary running through like a tangled ball of wool.  I can’t separate my memories into favorites.  It feels that if I do I won’t be living this lovely life that I have lived but an edited version of my experience, of myself.  


As a young girl,  I remember the absolute joy of dancing, of being so good at what I loved that others noticed.  I was praised, and that was good.  I also remember the meanness of my peers that came along with recognition.  Stolen pointe shoes, tights found wet in the corner of the shower, the teasing that went like a knife to any soft part of one’s being.


When I turned twenty-one my parents took me to The Rainbow Room to celebrate - a wonderful old restaurant that was at the top of Rockefeller Center, in NY.  I wore an orange silk dress that I had made with a square neck and hidden pockets in the front.  I felt very beautiful in that dress - not a typical sensation for me at the time.  I had returned to live with my parents after a disastrous year with a boyfriend in an apartment on The Grand Concourse. 


 It was just the three of us.  The waiter was being sweet to me because it was my birthday.  My mother got up to use the toilet, and when she returned she said, “The waiter told me that I was the most beautiful woman in the room.”  


In that moment I understood so many things.  That I would always remember the sensation of feeling myself, not someone else telling me, as beautiful.  That my memory of the moment, the smell of champagne in a flute, the bubbles rising to the surface, the white table cloths, the lovely sense of occasion would remain with me always.  And that, though I loved my mother, nearly adored her, and she loved me, her wounds would always play in the space between us, and it was my job to find a way to live in the memory, the whole of it, and make of it what I could.


So memory for me has always been a complex chiaroscuro of sensation never simply a favorite, never flat, or even easy, but mine to do with what I could.

 

A Favourite Memory
(28.07.2025). Sarah's story

What is a happy memory?  Something that you call up from the depths of your past that makes you feel happy all over?  I don’t have that sort of memory or if I do is too private to write about publicly.  I live with the past, the past is important to me, but to say I have a favorite memory is a non-sense.  I do remember, however moments when I felt beauty and registered the fact.  So I will make a little necklace of those moments.
Two that come to mind are when I was travelling with my brother across Canada and down the Pacific coast, with an excursion of several days into Wyoming and Colorado.  One night, after driving all afternoon in sight of the jagged peaks of the Grand Tetons, which I found absolutely wonderful, we decided to camp out for the night.  We had a tent, which we used when we found a suitable place; otherwise we looked for the cheapest motel we could find.  Both of us were still students and we were going out West, me to find lodgings for my coming year at Berkeley, he to the six-months job in an airplane factory which he was using as a practical break from his studies at MIT.  We found a sandpit, where we could sleep out of the sight of passers-by if ever there were any, though the car of course was visible, but in fact there were none.  There were fewer tourists in the West in those days, and people did not drive that much at night.  And I think people were not so worried in those days about psychopaths out looking for victims.
In the end we did not put up the tent, because the weather was fine and looked to stay that way.  So we lay in our sleeping bags and looked up at the sky, which began to blacken and gradually came out all diamonds.  The sky over Flavigny is often wonderful at night, but this was sumptuously spectacular.
A week or so later we came to Oregon and went up to the top of Crater Lake National Park to look down on the lake in the crater below.  The irregular coastline, curving in and out into coves and around small peninsulas thick with spruce trees, enclosed water of such blueness as I had never seen before.  I would see it later near Naples and Capri, but now I could only compare it with the film Peter Pan.
Another memorable moment was, in fact, in that very region of Italy.  I was with a group that had just climbed Mount Vesuvius, and we were coming down, slightly light-headed because of the rapid changes in altitude, and I was mesmerized by the plasticity of the view before me.  What I saw was layer after layer of landscape unfolding before me, in what seemed like heightened three-dimension, all the way down to the sea beyond.  It was as if I could feel it sensorily.
On another trip to Italy, I was in a train, going probably from Rome back to Strasbourg, and at the end of the afternoon we came to the lake of Lugano, turning a deep blue in the approaching night.  On the farther shore the lights of Lugano came out, and the scene impressed me as a stretch of fairyland, which I gazed at until it disappeared.
I suppose I could go on and on, but that is not the point of this task.  We were to write of “a” memory, but mine are too brief for any one of them to make up a whole text on their own.  So that’s it for today!

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Annemarie's story

My Favourite Memory

You can have many favourite memories and I have too many of my immediate family and friends so I remember someone who was not the easiest person but it's a memory that always makes me smile fondly of her.

From the age of eleven to seventeen I spent most of the school holidays with my great grandmother and my great aunt. Great aunt Gwynneth was a strict, very religious and very critical woman. She was  very keen that we, my sister and I, do all our household duties to make us into 'good little mothers and housekeepers'. In her own way she was loving but severe; she took us out for weekend outings and treated us to the cinema but it was a strange life for us two teenagers.  Before World War II she worked as a nurse on an ocean-going liner to China. She fell passionately in love with the onboard doctor and end of cruise meant end of the love affair. (Great Granny told my fourteen-year-old self, my eyes agog, my ears flapping, and that "he was a married man and she never forgot his treachery"). I always supposed this made her the woman we knew.

  When Auntie Gwynneth (as I always had to call her,) reached 85 years and could no longer manage her bungalow she came to live with John and myself and our two teenagers. She was not the easiest of people; critical of our meals, of the books I read having discovered one that was on the banned Roman Catholic list, and quite demanding; the six years she remained with us required a degree of patience. Yes, the roles were now reversed and she had possibly felt the same about my sister and me all those many years before.

  When it came to her ninetieth birthday we tried hard to think of something special to celebrate it. Serendipitously  I heard on the news that a baby giraffe had been born at Whipsnade zoo. Auntie G loved a drive in the country and she loved a picnic. I packed up her favourite picnic foods, hauled the wheelchair into the boot and manhandled Auntie G into the passenger seat for her surprise birthday treat.

Whipsnade zoo is the largest zoo in the UK, with vast fields for the animals to roam...and we did roam throughout the day. Pushing a wheelchair up and down slopes is hard work but people were incredibly kind,  moving to allow this visibly old lady a good viewing position to see the giraffes.

 The giraffe was about seven feet from the fence; sixteen feet of star-shaped tan blotches on a creamy tan background right in front of us. It was the first day in front of the public for the foal. Below the height of its mother's tummy the baby giraffe had to reach up to drink from her teat. The mother giraffe  bent her long patterned neck downwards in a graceful arch to stroke her foal in gentle soothing movements of her bony head while the foal drank.

 Then we heard that the elephants were going to parade along the paths of the zoo and 'would anyone like to hold the last elephant's tail?' From the wheel chair came a shout accompanied by an uplifted arm ,"Yes, yes, I would", called out Auntie G. Lots of 'aahs' and she was given the honour of hanging on to baby elephant's tale. There were six elephants in all, each one gripping the tale of the one in front of it and myself taking up the rear pushing the wheelchair as we paraded the paths for 15 minutes, Auntie G hanging on with both hands and I desperately hoping the baby elephant was 'house-trained'. We ate our picnic lunch in front of Henry the hippo's enclosure, Auntie G throwing bits of her sandwich to the cavernous mouth of this enormous creature, just a few feet from us.

Yes, that is my favourite memory of my severe, difficult aunt having what she said was one of the best days of her life and remembering the childlike pleasure on her nonagenarian face.

 

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Jackie's story

My favorite memory

Living a long life one has thousands of great memories – some of them favorite ones and its difficult to imagine putting down on paper just one.    A favorite one is when you jump for joy and remember it I suppose.

 

So here is my list ;

Receiving my first teddy bear when I was 6 years old – he lives to this day above my bed in Viserny

Swimming in the Pacific Ocean and enjoying the sun after moving to the USA

Feeling proud to have graduated from High school

My first job in London

A favorite moment when I walked down the Champs Elysees in Paris and decided to spend the rest of my life here

A wonderful weekend discovering the Chateaux de la Loire

Going to St Tropez to sleep in a house that had no bathroom or hot water  

Getting married - Becoming a “Madame” and changing my last name

Birth of my son and then daughter

Returning to Paris after a short interval in the UK  -

Loving different dogs

Walking in the mornings at 8 am

My first shop

Getting appreciation for something I have made

Living in Paris was a permanent favorite memory

My most recent favorite memory was having my two older granddaughters visit for a few days – getting to know their grown selves and listening to their plans and projects for the future.  


Tuesday, 29 July 2025

Something popped

Annemarie's story

Something Popped

Today would be her first day back at work since her flight back from Australia. She was ever hopeful that there were no sudden sounds; after three months her hearing was fine but any popping sounds were like little explosions in her head, not tinnitus -  no, not ringing but little bursts, always irritating but sometimes painful. She had explained to her doctor that on the long-haul flight back to UK she had the usual feeling in her ears with the change of air pressure but they never 'popped' and now it was as if they were in limbo, constantly awaiting the 'pop'.

At breakfast the sound of the toast popping up resembled gunshots and she couldn't stop herself from ducking. She lost her temper with Graham for popping grapes into his mouth, one at time. Each little muffled 'pop' had her covering her ears...and feeling very stupid and apologetic. Even when the fish in their aquarium came up for air with a minute little gulp she heard a burst of 'plupf' and she had to leave the room.

Yesterday on the metro opposite her, there had been a cute little kid sitting quietly beside his mother, his fingers feeding their way along a piece of bubble wrap - pop, pop, pop. Little high-pitched explosions in her head. She couldn't bear it and Diana left the train one stop early and took a taxi the rest of the way lest she let her pain and irritation loose on a perfectly well-behaved child.

She was excited but a little nervous about tonight as it was the first time she had to present at such a prestigious event. How would the sounds on the stage affect her composure?

She asked Graham to run her bath with plenty of Dr. Heal's Pink Himalayan bubble bath. Stuffing cotton wool in each ear to shut out the sound of bursting bubbles she luxuriated in these few  tranquil moments.

Hair done she gathered  her dress - deep aquamarine with a long thigh-length split and halter neck, finished with a sparkling Swarovski button - her shoes and jewellery, and took a taxi to the theatre.

  Disconcerted by the taxi-driver chewing on a piece of bubble gum - little fire-crackers bursting in her ears- she arrived at the theatre jumpy and flustered.  Dressed, her face make-up immaculate she added a simple platinum necklace set with a deeply-coloured amethyst for a pop of colour. A couple of deep breaths and she calmly entered the stage and proceeded to announce the winners in various categories. She braced herself at each round of applause.  With the third nomination as she presented the trophy she heard something pop. Resounding loud as gunshot in her head she swung around in fright fearing a demonstrator - but no one, nothing. The film star about to receive his award and the audience on the other hand looked shocked, mildly embarrassed and some were sniggering. From the wings a crew member hurried up to Diana, glittering Swarovski button in his fingers; he stood in front of her and shielded her and, more importantly, her ample bosom ensconced in its nude bra, from the audience but too late to prevent the live transmission, the photos in newspapers, on YouTube of her very public wardrobe malfunction.

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Mary's story

Snapping, Springing, Skipjack Beetles

We swarm towards the light

of the bright glowing moon

our celestial compass,

our cue to navigation.

We have no choice.

We are trapped.

We are compelled, impelled, propelled to go

round and round,

the strange light.

We are flying beetles,

Giant moths and mosquitoes,

We fly, fly, fly

never stopping

then suddenly dropping

from the sky…

exhausted.

Some struggle, squirming on their backs

unable to flip over

thin legs kicking, jerking,

till death stills them.

But we snapping, spinning, clicking, skip jack beetles

fall on our backs.

Then something POPS! POP! POP!

Something clicks CLICK! CLICK! CLICK!

It’s like we are shot up out of a canon.

Up and up we fly

Flipping round and round.

Were acrobatic beetles

Coming down, down, down

and landing… on our feet.

Mary Vanroyen

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Paula's story

Eliza was sitting on her balcony high above the rock-strewn beach one sunny afternoon, a glass of cold champagne at her elbow and a good novel in her lap, gazing out onto the blue expanse of sea and sky: a recipe for blissful happiness. But she was not blissfully happy. She was wearing a bra that was tight where it should have been loose, and loose where it should have been tight. She was very warm on a cool and breezy day. Her hair refused to do what she told it to do.

That’s when something popped into her head. An idea. A scheme. Something that might make her feel better, and possibly help others like her to feel better.

That’s how the We No Longer Care Club began.

She’s fetched her laptop from her desk and settled in to write an email to her closest female friends. “Join me,” she wrote. “Tell me what you no longer care about now that we have hit the golden age of menopause. I’ll start.” And then she listed the ill-fitting bra, her whacko body temperature, her frizzled hair. “You just get to the point where you no longer care about a lot of stuff you used to, right?” she asked them. “So send me a list of things you no longer care about. And ask other women you know to send their own.”

The messages started pouring in. It was as if she had opened a floodgate of annoyances and grievances, and women were eager to jump in to the flow.

Chin hairs. Unpainted toenails. Leaving the house without makeup on. The bathroom scale. My neck. Those came from her friend Annie, who said she feels like she has been taking care of others — children, aging parents, pets — all her life. And she has stopped trying to please everyone. “I just do not care anymore,” she said. “And it makes me a nicer person.”

“I no longer care if I skip the family holiday dinner,” wrote Leslie. “Most of you have undiagnosed trauma that I honestly just don’t want to deal with right now. Also: I no longer care about arm fat. About separating laundry into neat little piles of lights and darks. And if I want to eat half a box of cookies for breakfast, that’s none of anyone’s business. I do not care.”

“I no longer care that I haven’t dusted the house in a month,” Caroline wrote. “I no longer care that the towels in my guest bathroom don’t match. I no longer care that I forgot to wear earrings … again.”

The idea isn’t to stop caring about everything, Eliza’s email to her friends said. We still care about our loved ones, about staying healthy, about being kind in this crazy world. It’s more about taking the pressure off yourself when it comes to things that truly don’t matter, like a spotless house or a perfectly cooked meal. It’s time to prioritize what we need to feel our best at this stage of life, she told them.

Eliza had struck a nerve. The years of perimenopause and menopause can bring physical and emotional upheaval: Mood swings, brain fog, fatigue, insomnia, hot flashes, weight gain. The women of the We No Longer Care Club delivered.

 “I no longer care that you wanted something different for dinner than what I made,” Tina said. “I didn’t see you offer to cook dinner.”

Jan wrote: “I do not care that my husband thinks I’m crazy because I sleep under a down comforter with a fan blowing on me.”

 From Lisabeth: “I no longer care that I am a horrible speller. I no longer care that I like my dogs more than I like most people. I no longer care about hiding my age.” She continued, “Now, I realize why my mother was such a bear some days when I was a teenager. She was caring too much, and trying to please all of those around her. It must have been exhausting. Well, I just do not care. And I can’t tell you how much relief that brings.”                                                                                                                             

There’s freedom in no longer striving to meet someone else’s expectations. By the time you reach menopause, that freedom feels like a well-earned prize. It’s not  about letting yourself go; it’s about choosing your priorities and not allowing others to dictate them to you.

Here’s what I do care about, Eliza thought as she laughed over her friends’ replies. I care that my friends and I are aging with grace and dignity and humor, and that we are here for each other. Always.

And to hell with this bra.

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Sarah's story

And then it went pop 4  A true story, but a fairy-tale ending
(20.07.2025)

He had not been particularly handsome when he was young; already a little on the pudgy side, he was losing the hair on his crown.  His lack of self-confidence detracted as well from his aura.  But he found a book and read it, which taught him business skills, not according to the rules he had listened to with a deaf ear in his early days, at school and at church.  He had not learned much at school, and as for church, he dismissed that now as balderdash.  Unless, he reflected, it could be useful.  The book had taught him that almost anything could be useful.  
He profited from his readings.  In his business deals he was crafty.  And not over-scrupulous.  With the money he made, he invested in new schemes and bought properties.  He noticed that his aura had increased; other people, including women, began to sidle up to him.  And his tastes became more refined.  Not just any woman would do: he wanted them young, and definitely he wanted them blond.  Still surprised at himself, he found he could get them now.  Not always those of his own country, where women were better educated and thought themselves superior.  No, some of those foreign countries had a good supply, and what was more, if they didn't speak English that well, it would be easier to keep them under thumb.
He got himself a wife, and was getting richer by the month.  But he remained unsatisfied.  Then he met a terrific guy.  That was the way he put it: "a terrific guy."  Only slightly older than himself, he had already created a paradise in the Virgin Islands.  Or might one say, a virgin paradise in the islands.  There the women were all blond, and young.  Very young.  Whom the man generously shared with his friends, in return for other favours.  
With the permissive divorce laws of the modern age, he found it easy to replace his first wife with one younger and more beautiful, and then finally replace this one with a third.  He had by now amassed such a fortune that he was sure he would be able to capture the first office in the nation, especially with the help of good pal in Europe, whose country was skilled in manipulating the social media.  To his astonishment and rage, however, he was not elected.  He tried to get the position by force, with the help of his followers, but the country was not yet ready for a coup; there was public outcry and an attempt at prosecution.  
Money pays, however, as do political and other contacts, and he managed to avoid conviction, or at least, imprisonment.  And he put the four years' respite to good use, so that the next time round, he won the election by a comfortable margin.  By now he had a powerful internal ally in the church, in one particular church, along with his foreign friends.  "You won't have to vote again," he promised his followers.  And he was almost as good as his word.
He went straight to work.  Not to studying the international and national situations, or to trying to situate the needs of the country.  Rather, when he was not off relaxing with his favorite sport, he spent what was left of his time writing the decrees necessary to consolidate his power and please his friends, who all belonged to the upper 1%, as his followers all hoped one day to belong as well.  He had his own social media, appropriately named "Truth", eminently useful in that his main arms were lies and insults, and as his body thickened his ego grew.  He confided to the newspapers (those favorable to him, having managed to insure that the others, more critical, did not reach much of the public ear) that everyone loved him, thought him intelligent, said he was so handsome and believed him the greatest leader ever, so that even he himself began to believe in international consecration on a grand scale.  
Foreign peoples did not like him as much as his local admirers did, and foreign leaders did not always cooperate with his schemes.  Using his usual tactics, however, he managed to twist the truth to his own advantage.   His old friend got into trouble with the law, and he severed his ties.  He even said they should look into the guy's records.
His aura, or at least his self-esteem, blossomed.  But one day came a scandal he could not turn aside.  His old friend's records might be incriminating.  His raving contradictions did little for his credibility, but he still had his new friends, who turned right around and asserted that the records, after all, did not exist.  The scandal, however, would not go away.  He raved daily and his red face grew redder, his rages began to make people suspect his declarations, even among his own followers.  But even as the scandal expanded and his incoherent rages with them, so did his delusion of popularity and invincibility.  His ego ballooned until it filled the universe.
Until one day, at last, it popped.  Everything.  His delusion, his self-esteem, his sanity, his reign of office, his wide following, it all went pfft! in the repercussions of the scandal that no-one could sweep away.  Cleaning up the mess, however, took some time.
 

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Jackie's story

Something popped into my inbox

A video game, a promise and I started to dream    A certain amount of money was offered for playing a game and winning    Everyone wins it said.

I could buy another house, a flat in Paris or London or New York or well,  lower my sights a little maybe do up the bathroom and repaint the bedroom.  

A video game is  something I have never done as I’m too busy sewing  birds or suchlike.    So I clicked on the website thinking that at my age I could perhaps hit the jackpot.     But before I started to play I read through the blurb

First the explanation:
Explore ancient ruins, mystical forests, and the shadowy depths of a dreamworld where nightmares lurk.   Discover new creatures who guard and protect Lunacia’s secrets. Build a home, a town, a community, an army.

Lunacia (an imaginary place) was once a region where gods roamed the land,

The then population of Axies flew through the clouds, and swam the seas destroying everything.     After centuries of war, Lunacia is ripe for rebuilding.

Then

Pages and pages of very small print that I couldn’t enlarge for some reason – Lots of ifs and buts,  rules and regulations so I skipped lots of pages and  clicked validate and entered into the world of Axie Infinity

 

Loads of little creatures were swarming over my screen – green ones, yellow and blue ones purple spats and yellow eruptions – all shouting brandishing weapons and making squeaking noises with an occasional explosion and lots of dead creatures everywhere

A challenge is a challenge and after all this game and promise of a certain wealth did just pop into my life.  So I played and played the hours went by and dust accumulated – dishes went unwashed and we ate pizza for breakfast, lunch and dinner

And I waited and waited the 6 weeks for the result – there I was every morning in my pyjamas  scrutinizing  the screen squinting in the early morning light –

Then another email popped in my inbox this time from my bank manager – you are overdrawn by -50,000€ - please rectify this matter asap.    There must be a mistake they have put a minus sign instead of a plus sign.    The game promised that I would win they said no losers – “everyone wins”… but written into  the small print each game you played cost money      This is the part I had skipped

Morale of the story; always read every word of the small print  and block out pop ups on your computer

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